I just fail to see the evidence that it's an actual trend and that this correlation exists. Sources?

Also, if someone would seriously consider cross[ing] off "treat women like people" from their list then they were never nice in the first place.

their poor choices are creating practical problems for other people

Why is this all the womens' fault, anyway? Why aren't we going after men for being so fixated on sex (according to your argument) that they didn't stop to consider whether they were actually well-matched with the woman they started dating?